I found this book on the shelf at Target. As I was waiting for my daughter, I began to look through it's pages and then I knew it! It was a ZINGER! You know, one of those things that you must own. It goes like this:
if I leave the store without it,
I will go home and think about it,
then I will have to come back and find it,
if it's not there I will regret it,
and whine about it,
Girls, that takes lots of hard shopping time to hone a feeling like that. This is not a superficial thing, zingers, it is a deep knowing. In a piece of clothing, it is knowing that you will love. it. and wear. it. ever time it's clean. Those are the thing I buy. My motto is, "It. Must. Be. A. Zinger"! (enough with the periods already)
"Staging Your Comeback" is a beauty book for women over 45. I need this book. Somewhere between raising children and getting them raised, I lost touch on fashion and how to wear it and also on make-up. Things are just droopy now. You know, it was easy as a young person, everything looked great, didn't need much make up, now, not so much. So, I stayed away from it. I have to admit, however, that I got bored with my looks and let it suck the joy out of my day. I quit putting on makeup because I wasn't working outside the home anymore and no one was going to see me, right. As it turns out I always ended up in town and running into people I knew. I'm not saying that I got depressed, because I didn't, but I wasn't looking my best and that at the end of the day, it's just no fun. I found that every time I went into the office at my kids high school, my friends would say, (yes I went there often enough to have friends) "you look like you don't feel good, or you look tired". No, I feel great and I am well rested, I just don't have makeup on! I want to have fun and look good doing it. That may be vain but it is truth.
The first quiz was on discovering your image. Ok I did something that could be dangerous, I asked my husband the first question. Here it is,
1. If you were given on honest compliment, it would be: (honey, what would it be?)
a. You look like you have it all together. (he knows that's not true, no chance of that)
b. You are so comfortable to be with. ( I've heard that one before, but they were just being nice)
c. You're very sweet and kind. (um, who wants that one)
d. You are stunning! (I'm feeling a buzz here)
e. You're quite unique and interesting. (Yep, I could do that one)
f. What a sexy woman! (Usetobe)
His answer, I don't know, I guess, you're sweet and kind? My face froze with one eyebrow up. The realization registers in his mind that that was not what I was looking for. Honestly I wanted, at that moment, to hear You. Are. Stunning! Your sweet and kind felt like being told you have a great personality when the guy doesn't want to go out with you anymore. What I wanted to be hear is your pretty, or beautiful or even stunning! I've never been told that I am stunning but who wouldn't want to be told that by their man?
O.K. so I take the quiz and it says that I am a Dramatic. What! A DRA-MA-TIC! I'm not a Dramatic! In a room by myself, I hear the words coming outta my mouth.
Well, maybe a bit dramatic. I thought I would be a causal or a classic. For heaven's sake I wear nothing but jeans and t-shirts. How can that be dramatic? Who am I? What does a dramatic do? How do blue jeans be dramatic?
I know these aren't jeans but the shirt is!
Funny thing because the first buzz word for a dramatic is stunning. I wanted to be called stunning and then, when I was, it didn't feel right. So I closed the book.
Fast forward to today, I decided to give it another try and re-took the quiz. I am a classic with a side of casual/dramatic. Whew, that was close. Now that feels more comfortable. And the buzz words; elegant (yes in jeans) tasteful (again jeans) understated(definately jeans), easy care, natural, and stunning! Go figure, God is so good.
So, I decided if your going to do this thing, watch what the "big" girls do and copy them, So in tribute to BigMamma, I am doing a fashion Friday make-over gig. Follow me as I discover how to walk through this maze called fashion, on an over 50 body and a slightly out of touch grandmother.