Fashion Friday, Do I Need a Make Over? Staging Your Comeback

I found this book on the shelf at Target.  As I was waiting for my daughter, I began to look through it's pages and then I knew it!  It was a ZINGER!  You know, one of those things that you must own.  It goes like this: 

if I leave the store without it, 

I will go home and think about it, 

then I will have to come back and find it, 

if it's not there I will regret it, 

and whine about it, 

forever.  

Girls, that takes lots of hard shopping time to hone a feeling like that.  This is not a superficial thing, zingers, it is a deep knowing.  In a piece of clothing, it is knowing that you will love. it. and wear. it. ever time it's clean.  Those are the thing I buy.  My motto is,  "It. Must. Be. A. Zinger"!  (enough with the periods already) 

"Staging Your Comeback" is a beauty book for women over 45.  I need this book.  Somewhere between raising children and getting them raised, I lost touch on fashion and how to wear it and also on make-up.  Things are just droopy now. You know, it was easy as a young person, everything looked great, didn't need much make up, now, not so much.  So, I stayed away from it.  I have to admit, however, that I got bored with my looks and let it suck the joy out of my day.  I quit putting on makeup because I wasn't working outside the home anymore and no one was going to see me, right.  As it turns out I always ended up in town and running into people I knew.  I'm not saying that I got depressed, because I didn't, but I wasn't looking my best and that at the end of the day, it's just no fun.  I found that every time I went into the office at my kids high school, my friends would say, (yes I went there often enough to have friends) "you look like you don't feel good, or you look tired".  No, I feel great and I am well rested, I just don't have makeup on!  I want to have fun and look good doing it. That may be vain but it is truth.  

The first quiz was on discovering your image.  Ok I did something that could be dangerous, I asked my husband the first question.  Here it is, 

1.  If you were given on honest compliment, it would be: (honey, what would it be?)

a.  You look like you have it all together. (he knows that's not true, no chance of that)

b.  You are so comfortable to be with. ( I've heard that one before, but they were just being nice)

c.  You're very sweet and kind. (um, who wants that one)

d.  You are stunning! (I'm feeling a buzz here)

e.  You're quite unique and interesting. (Yep, I could do that one)

f.  What a sexy woman! (Usetobe)

His answer, I don't know, I guess, you're sweet and kind?  My face froze with one eyebrow up.  The realization registers in his mind that that was not what I was looking for.   Honestly I wanted, at that moment, to hear You. Are. Stunning!  Your sweet and kind felt like being told you have a great personality when the guy doesn't want to go out with you anymore.  What I wanted to be hear is your pretty, or beautiful or even stunning!  I've never been told that I am stunning but who wouldn't want to be told that by their man?  

O.K. so I take the quiz and it says that I am a Dramatic.  What!  A DRA-MA-TIC!  I'm not a Dramatic!  In a room by myself, I hear the words coming outta my mouth.  

Well, maybe a bit dramatic.  I thought I would be a causal or a classic.  For heaven's sake I wear nothing but jeans and t-shirts.  How can that be dramatic?  Who am I?  What does a dramatic do?  How do blue jeans be dramatic?  

I know these aren't jeans but the shirt is!

Funny thing because the first buzz word for a dramatic is stunning.  I wanted to be called stunning and then, when I was, it didn't feel right.  So I closed the book.  

Fast forward to today, I decided to give it another try and re-took the quiz.  I am a classic with a side of casual/dramatic.  Whew, that was close.  Now that feels more comfortable.  And the buzz words; elegant (yes in jeans) tasteful (again jeans) understated(definately jeans), easy care, natural, and stunning!  Go figure, God is so good.

So, I decided if your going to do this thing, watch what the "big" girls do and copy them,  So in tribute to BigMamma, I am doing a fashion Friday make-over gig.  Follow me as I discover how to walk through this maze called fashion, on an over 50 body and a slightly out of touch grandmother.